When you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. Then Jesus said to Peter, Follow me!

Peter turned and saw John and asked, “Lord, what about him?”  Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me!”  John 21:18-23

Jesus was saying to Peter, “Just do what I tell you. Don’t worry about anybody else.” This story makes me laugh, because I grew up in a family with six children and we were always saying, “Hey, what about her? How come she...?” (There were 5 girls, so the question was always asked in the feminine gender.) My mother always answered pretty much the way Jesus did: Just worry about yourself. This is a good answer—the only answer, really. But as a person who does a lot of comparing, I don’t like this answer. (“Hey, God, how come they...? Why don’t they have to...?”) Then God has to say to me, “What does that matter? Just follow me.”

     When someone has talents, resources and opportunities that I don’t have—when they have the job I never got, or the husband or wife or child that I’m still hoping for—this is a pretty hard truth: God is sovereign and it is His prerogative to lead each of us on whatever paths He chooses. We know it but sometimes we just want to have a tantrum about it.

     Just last week I read the parable of the master who entrusted his servants with “talents.” Each of them was given a different amount. I thought, “Why not just give them all the same amount? Why start out so unfairly?” The answer? Frankly, it’s none of my business! God is God, and I’m not. If I could learn simple obedience without rubber-necking about what is going on with anyone else, I would save myself a lot of unnecessary stress and grief.

*What is the “unfair” thing that you’ve been struggling with lately? Go ahead and be honest with God.

God, I want to learn to mind my own business—to not compare, to realize I’m unable to judge what is fair and what isn’t. I want to rest in You.

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