Love is patient, love is kind…It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.  I Corinthians 13:4,7,8

It takes a lot of humility to maintain good relationships. There are so many expectations when we are in relationships, that only humility can keep us from destroying “love.” In the book “To Own a Dragon,” by Donald Miller, he has a chapter on girls. He sees a girl at a coffee shop break up with her boyfriend, then come inside the shop and flirt with another guy. Unbelievably, later that evening, he sees the same girl at a restaurant with a different guy. It makes him think about relationships, and how difficult they are…and “how shallow the game is, and that my soul is more than a bit tired of it. For the first time, I don’t want to play anymore. I want something better.”

     Ironically, Miller had just started seeing someone, and he was talking to his friend, Tony, about her. “Tony said he thought she sounded great. But then he asked if I thought I deserved to be in a relationship at all. ‘I don’t know,’ I said. ‘What do you mean?’

     ‘Do you feel a girl would be grateful to have you in her life?’ he asked.

     ‘I don’t know. What are you getting at?’

     Tony replied, ‘I’m just saying that I think we can use people to get what we need, but it has nothing to do with love. ‘

     Miller writes, ‘I’ve started to wonder if what I was really lacking in my understanding of relationships was humility.’”

     Wow, the people who are in relationship with me—do they have good reasons to be grateful? Grateful that I’m their mother? Their friend? Their wife? Do they feel blessed, because I am humble enough to think about what they need, rather than what I need? Donald Miller concludes, “I think love stemming from the ego and love stemming from the heart are very different things.”

 I agree, Donald. I agree.

**Do the people in relationship with you have reasons to be grateful?

Lord, give me a love that others can count on…a steadfast, humble, unselfish, unconditional love that always hopes, always perseveres. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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